Tender Mother
Baby is unhappy
Babies cannot explain what is upsetting them or describe the feelings they are having at the time.
Often toddlers get so giddy or over stimulated they do not, or can not convey what they want in an appropriate manner, and it is never easy trying to find ways to alleviate these situations, as something which seems to work one day, has no effect whatsoever the next.
Prevention.
Can you spot early warning signs which indicate your child is building up to a tantrum? If so, try to step in and calm them before it escalates. If you see a pattern emerging to these outbursts, keep the child away from the same scenario next time if possible. For example, if your child plays up in the supermarket or mall, try to make alternative arrangements. Could a friend or neighbour look after them while you get your shopping?
Distraction.
Does the child have a favourite book, toy or cuddly animal? If so, it is sometimes possible to distract them enough in the early stages to stop it becoming a full tantrum.
Reassurance.
Talk in a soothing voice throughout, and promise that they are safe and that they are going to be OK. Keep doing this until they have regained control of their emotions. If the child wants a cuddle and a good cry after calming down, let them.
Talking.
Afterwards explain that you understand that they were upset and it is all right to be upset from time to time. Don't make the child feel that their feelings are 'bad' but that they are normal feelings that we all feel from time to time .
Stay calm.
A difficult one this admittedly, as some tantrums are downright distressing to experience. Staying calm however, helps you to stay in control of the situation. It is never a good idea to match aggression with aggression.
Stand your ground.
Try not to give in to a screaming child, even though it is very tempting `for a quiet life.' If you do, it will just give the message that if the child screams long and hard enough they will eventually get what they want.
Good luck!